tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post3171153797228873501..comments2023-03-25T05:49:26.326-07:00Comments on Help For Victims Of Betrayal Abuse : When does snooping become wrong??Makemyburdenlighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08272103698183036082noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-37603496457735711272021-12-09T17:42:33.983-07:002021-12-09T17:42:33.983-07:00I recommend Truple & Snoopza for android &...I recommend Truple & Snoopza for android & Windows 💗<br /><br />For iphones you could try these. I have no idea if they work since I refuse to have any Apple devices in my home since they aren't as safe, but some of these look promising? 🤷♂️<br /><br />https://www.techtimes.com/articles/246918/20200116/top-10-best-iphone-keylogger.htmMakemyburdenlighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08272103698183036082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-36252891163471065132021-06-11T15:43:23.881-07:002021-06-11T15:43:23.881-07:00I also would like to know what apps you have found...I also would like to know what apps you have found. You can email me at anonnouserfound@yahoo.com please. Thank you so much. For me I’m honest with my husband, I tell him I will go through his phone, he has the same authorization for my phone as well. We both have each others password to accounts (well the accounts I know about anyways). So I don’t feel it is snooping. Also I don’t do it obsessively anymore, however I have learned to trust my gut. When my gut says somethings wrong it’s always right. Jalainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06890416678624176448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-57776801032754843732016-12-30T23:38:01.337-07:002016-12-30T23:38:01.337-07:00What apps and games are considered unsafe? Also wh...What apps and games are considered unsafe? Also what did you use to monitor what was going on? Could you please email me at Amandanoelross@gmail.com <br />I would really really appreciate itAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00544348116835887054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-69090747275666930872016-12-30T23:35:59.324-07:002016-12-30T23:35:59.324-07:00What apps and games are considered unsafe? Also wh...What apps and games are considered unsafe? Also what did you use to monitor what was going on? Could you please email me at Amandanoelross@gmail.com <br />I would really really appreciate itAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00544348116835887054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-57909382580379867192016-05-17T08:27:37.675-07:002016-05-17T08:27:37.675-07:00That denial is a kicker isn't it. It gives us ...That denial is a kicker isn't it. It gives us a false sense of security and makes everything come crashing down harder EVENTUALLY. 👎Makemyburdenlighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08272103698183036082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-29791864584612360222016-05-17T08:25:00.068-07:002016-05-17T08:25:00.068-07:00That denial is a kicker isn't it. It gives us ...That denial is a kicker isn't it. It gives us a false sense of security and makes everything come crashing down harder EVENTUALLY. 👎Makemyburdenlighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08272103698183036082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-15292895256184096092016-05-15T15:02:23.428-07:002016-05-15T15:02:23.428-07:00So as far as snooping goes. I say if you can set ...So as far as snooping goes. I say if you can set boundaries to minimize the damage caused by discovering lies then DO IT. Mostly it hurts so much because I was putting on denial and wearing it to protect myself. Denial is like one of those dollar store toy shields when it comes to protection. So one of my biggest boundaries AHA moments this week was "I will not try to control OR ignore addict behaviors." When I was in the "don't ask, don't tell" policy I was trying to control AND ignore his addict behavior." <br />I like to organize my boundaries in pairs of what I will not do and what I will do: <br />"I will speak when I see a problem or potential danger.<br />I will let you make your own choices and experience the consequences of your choices." Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-2561674719467212582014-10-29T22:47:58.846-07:002014-10-29T22:47:58.846-07:00We have a very expensive ( as if this means "...We have a very expensive ( as if this means " good" ) counselor in our area who completely advocates checking or spying of all types , amazing huh ! He says if you have nothing to hide why are you bothered ? It is a very good article and I could email it to you. I actually feel fine and kind of smile if my husband is snooping on me ( reading my stuff , etc) because I feel like he finally cares a little. For so long he took me completely for granted and acted like he couldn't care less .I have heard so many say how wrong it is to snoop , I'm not in recovery , etc. and later hear how many had clues, husbands slipped and they " investigated" to verify their suspicions , had dreams and warnings in their gut they checked out. I just do not see anything at all wrong with gathering all the information I need to make an educated decision about the MOST life changing choices I may be forced to make all alone. Recently I had to resort to this to set my mind at ease after months of inner turmoil. I HATED the answer I found but the biggest pro I felt was realizing I WASN"T CRAZY ! Grateful I am not physically sick too. There really are women who die from this , really. I wonder if one therapist would think a soldier who was injured in a mine field was playing detective when they cautiously check out field areas in the future. And really, after this going on for a few years now it feels like a pattern. There are weeks or months of quiet inside of me , then something starts stirring and I can't rest until I find it or he is kept at a distance and I tell him something is bothering me. Even if he can't be open right then, I want to be open and tell him how I'm feeling. Yes I am very capable of being wrong, but I heard one wise woman teach how she checks her own heart ; where is she with God, is she putting effort into her relationship with God, time , thought, prayer. If she is in there " tight ", she trusts that lead and follows it . Thank you for sharing this well thought out post, appreciate your courage! This is controversial for sure ! And boy do I wish I could find a counselor like you ! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-70026679547474638522014-06-02T15:52:48.738-07:002014-06-02T15:52:48.738-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Karen Brittonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12610400695301212462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-33489484920520849782014-06-02T15:49:55.070-07:002014-06-02T15:49:55.070-07:00What did you use to check? Will you email me at k...What did you use to check? Will you email me at kgbritt@yahoo.com?Karen Brittonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12610400695301212462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-44044306667819382722014-05-28T02:28:55.653-07:002014-05-28T02:28:55.653-07:00Yeeaaa sometimes I just get too busy and I forget ...Yeeaaa sometimes I just get too busy and I forget to check (or could be because hubs is actually doing good?), or I just wait until the spirit tells me to check, which can be hours, days or months haha. I'm thankful for monitoring programs that allow me to backtrack and check when I feel the need because I love the OPTION juuuust in ;) Good job for figuring out what works for you!!!! Our safety is priority after all right? Thanks for the comment! :) Makemyburdenlighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08272103698183036082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9125950879300674244.post-64867330477733466572014-05-24T09:45:47.010-07:002014-05-24T09:45:47.010-07:00I love this post! I snooped and checked up in the ...I love this post! I snooped and checked up in the beginning stages and it was very helpful to snap me into reality and out of denial! 8-12 months later, the checking up wasn't helpful anymore and was causing more pain and really blinded me from realizing my husband was in recovery. I don't know how much longer it would have taken me to realize my unhealthy behavior if it wasn't for my counselor.(Shout out to the great counselors out there!!) I think there's a time and a place for it all and I LOVE the questions you are asking yourself. Thanks for your thoughts!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02294088569490332674noreply@blogger.com