S-Anon is victim blaming and codependency based, even if they don't use the word "codependency".
S-anon believes you are just as sick and diseased and addicted as your sex addict abusive partner. Whenever they talk about "your illness", this is what they mean:
We chose our partners because of our problems? NO. We didn't. Statistically 90-99% of all men regularly look at pornography, the odds are against ALL women. It's not a woman's fault a man chose to lie, cheat, and abuse:
Many of us have the same characteristics as the addict abuser, and we too became ill? 🤔:
Yes, we must seek recovery from our "illness" ... by getting the exact same 12 step treatment as the addict abuser🤦♀️:
Our noble qualities perpetuated our illness.. (again, "our addiction"):
"Our illness" that led us to seek out rejection, victimization, and heartache. Not the abuser who chose to lie, cheat, and abuse us. No, it's OUR fault, our "illness" ...:
It took us a long time to see our part in the mess?? Also, we chose an addict abuser!?!? Oy, Abuse isn't a "two to tango" scenario🤦♀️ :Our "disease"..:
Oh but make sure you don't revert back into your disease, otherwise that's considered a slip (you know, because you have an addiction😜) :
We often made a choice to be a victim? Apparently we are all so messed up we CHOSE to be abused! Because that makes sense...(To read why "victim" isn't a bad word, go Here) :
Suicidal because of YOUR unmanageability. You did it to yourself.:
There's more examples of awfulness, I just couldn't.... 😳🤢🤦♀️
FYI: Sometimes I hear "Well, my Sanon group wasn't victim blaming, we didn't use the Sanon blue book". But according to Sanon, if an Sanon group doesn't use the 12 steps, Sanon blue book, and abide by the 12 traditions, then they are not following the Sanon requirements and rules, and therefore "the group is not operating as an Sanon group" - Sanon.