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Tuesday, June 7, 2022

Why The Carnes/CSAT Empire Is Victim Blaming

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FYI: The CSAT training is FULL OF CODEPENDENCY/victim blaming. Stephanie Carnes runs the CSAT trainings (her father Patrick Carnes made up t...
Thursday, March 17, 2022

90-99% of Men Regularly View Pornography

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Pornography Statistics: "94.2 % [men] had viewed pornography in the last six months.  Additionally, 82.4% indicated that they currently...
Saturday, February 5, 2022

"Victim" Is Not A Weak Shameful Word

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"Victim mode", "Victim Mentality", "Stop playing a Victim", "It's tempting to be the victim"(Yes...
Friday, October 1, 2021

Most Women In Porn Are Trafficked

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We already know research shows that most women in prostitution are trafficked, but how many women in pornography are trafficked? Based on th...
Monday, September 20, 2021

RAPE: Is It Wrong For My Husband To Pressure Me For Sex?

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What is Rape & Sexual Assault?  Everyone PLEASE read this. You may think you know what rape and sexual assault means, but the reality is...
Wednesday, May 5, 2021

Victim Blaming Post #8: Ignoring Red Flags

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I can't count the many times I've heard women say "I ignored the red flags", or "I painted the red flags green",...

Victim Blaming Post #7 : Prodependency

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 Who here wants a new name for codependency? Oh right, no one. "Prodependency" is another victim blaming term, made up by sex addi...

Victim Blaming Post #6 Trauma Bonded

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 The term "Trauma Bond" is just as victim blaming as codependency, reactive abuse, stockholm syndrome, learned helplessness, Drama...

Victim Blaming Post #5 "Learned Helplessness"

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 I'm not against everything regarding learned helplessness. Martin Seligman's study is fascinating (disgusting), though I don't ...

Victim Blaming Post #4 Stockholm Syndrome

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The term "Stockholm Syndrome" is ALL CRAP. Hogwash. Nonsense. Absurd. Rubbish. Malarky. Hooey. Doo doo. Lies. Yet there are hundre...

Victim Blaming Post #3 The Drama Triangle (Karpman Triangle)

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 The Drama Triangle is another victim blaming term when applied to trauma victims.  According to the creator, Dr. Stephen Karpman, the Drama...

Victim Blaming Post #2: Reactive Abuse or Mutual Abuse

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"Reactive Abuse" or "Mutual Abuse" isnt a real thing. Someone always has more power and control. The reason victims do t...

Victim Blaming Post #1 Codependency

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I will be doing a series of posts about some victim blaming terms that many people may not be aware of that are harming victims of abuse, li...
Monday, October 12, 2020

Prodependency Is Harmful

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 "EVEN IF IT'S ALL COMPLETELY TRUE" Anyone else sick of sex addict men coming up with labels for traumatized women?  Let's...
Saturday, September 19, 2020

Proof S-Anon Blames Trauma Victims

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(Yes. Cat memes make me happy)  S-Anon is victim blaming and codependency based, even if they don't use the word "codependency"...
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Saturday, November 23, 2019

How To Tell If Your Therapist Is Covertly Victim Blaming

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  A recent poll suggests that 93% of betrayed wives have had an experience with a therapist blaming them by using the codependency mode...
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Thursday, October 25, 2018

Codependency Harms

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History of Codependency The term codependency (or co-addict) was a word made up by a bunch of addicts from Alcoholics Anonymous, founded ...
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Monday, December 4, 2017

My Boundaries

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For those interested in what my current personal boundaries look like 💗. For How to Set Boundaries go HERE : Boundaries are very imp...
Monday, October 2, 2017

Latter Day Saint: Helpful Consequences, Repentance and the Process of Becoming Worthy

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Are Consequences and Repentance Required for Worthiness?  LDS Mormon Quotes Why Are Consequences Helpful?  If Alma the you...

Latter Day Saint: Can Someone View Pornography and Still Attend the Temple Worthily??

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Pornography and the Law of Chastity  LDS Mormon Quotes   What is Pornography?   Definition of Pornography : "Pornog...
Sunday, August 6, 2017

Latter Day Saint: Judge Others

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What The Church Says About Judging Others "Thou shalt not judge" is a common accusatory (and quite shaming) misconception I h...
Friday, April 28, 2017

Correlation Between Video Games And Sex Addiction

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CORRELATION BETWEEN VIDEO GAMES AND PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION Watch this video on the science behind pornography addiction. Video games rew...
Friday, March 17, 2017

How to Do Self EMDR

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  Self EMDR Here's how to do POSITIVE self EMDR to help with trauma and help you love yourself. No therapist is needed because th...
Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Your Brain on Caffeine

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Your Brain on Caffeine Im going to write about something that may be upsetting to some people. I'm going to talk about the dangers o...
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Saturday, September 3, 2016

Wearing Lingerie

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I know this can be a touchy subject so as an addict, and my husband also being an addict, I'm going to explain the reasons why I per...
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Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Should My Husband Take A Polygraph?

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If Your Husband Struggles With a Sexual Addiction Should He Take a Polygraph? I love polygraphs. I believe all sex addicts should t...
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Friday, August 5, 2016

Does Masturbation Cause Sexual Dysfunction?

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Scientific and Personal Reasons of Why Masturbation Can Cause Sexual & Erectile Dysfunction. I started masturbating when I wa...
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Sunday, July 31, 2016

LDS Mormon View On Masturbation

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"Masturbation is sex with self. Sex with self is sex with someone other than your husband or wife to whom you are legally and lawf...
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Sunday, July 3, 2016

Questions To Ask Your Husband

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If you just found out about your husbands addiction and are going through the full disclosure, these questions may be helpful to ask.
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Friday, June 17, 2016

Is There Something Wrong With Me That Attracts Sex Addicts?

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Is There Something Wrong With You That Attracts Addicts?   I used to believe so, but I no longer do.  Hear me out.  If statistics sa...
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Sunday, May 29, 2016

Latter Day Saint: Commanded To Forgive

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 Must We Forgive Those Who Harm Us And Is Forgiveness The Same As Trust? LDS.org Quotes The quotes below have brought me comfort. At fi...
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Wednesday, April 27, 2016

70% of Men Look At Pornography

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Pornography Statistics These are some more recent statistics from all around the world (and some old stats taken before smart phon...
Monday, April 11, 2016

Gaslighting is Abuse.

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What is Gaslighting?  Quotes & Resources 1. Oxford Dictionary states: "Gaslight - Manipulate (someone) by psychological ...
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Sunday, April 3, 2016

Latter Day Saint: Is Sex a Responsibility?

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  Is it Your Responsibility to Have Sex With Your Husband?  Quotes From LDS Mormon Church Leaders Many wives struggle with feeling like ...
Friday, April 1, 2016

Is the Addiction Label Helpful or Hurtful?

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  Many people believe that using the term "sex addict" is detrimental, and should no longer be used when treating sex addict...
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I am an LDS mother of 4 children. I am also an Alcoholic, Drug & Sex Addict and have been in Sober Recovery for 10 years.
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