Help For Victims Of Betrayal Abuse

“He’s such a narcissist” How many of us have heard people say things like this in reference to a perpetrator of abuse? Do perpetrators reall...

I wanted to expound more on the history of the blaming label "Trauma Bonding"  (to read why Trauma Bonding is victim blaming and P...

Ever wonder WHY watching pornography without consent of your partner is also cheating? It's because there's a part of the brain tha...

 How I find therapists to vet : - Go to PsychologyToday website and input your zip code. - Then narrow down the search by clicking on "...

FYI: The CSAT training is FULL OF CODEPENDENCY/victim blaming. Stephanie Carnes runs the CSAT trainings (her father Patrick Carnes made up t...

Pornography Statistics: "94.2 % [men] had viewed pornography in the last six months.  Additionally, 82.4% indicated that they currently...

"Victim mode", "Victim Mentality", "Stop playing a Victim", "It's tempting to be the victim"(Yes...

We already know research shows that most women in prostitution are trafficked, but how many women in pornography are trafficked? Based on th...

What is Rape & Sexual Assault?  Everyone PLEASE read this. You may think you know what rape and sexual assault means, but the reality is...

I can't count the many times I've heard women say "I ignored the red flags", or "I painted the red flags green",...

 Who here wants a new name for codependency? Oh right, no one. "Prodependency" is another victim blaming term, made up by sex addi...

 The term "Trauma Bond" is just as victim blaming as codependency, reactive abuse, stockholm syndrome, learned helplessness, Drama...

 I'm not against everything regarding learned helplessness. Martin Seligman's study is fascinating (disgusting), though I don't ...

The term "Stockholm Syndrome" is ALL CRAP. Hogwash. Nonsense. Absurd. Rubbish. Malarky. Hooey. Doo doo. Lies. Yet there are hundre...

 The Drama Triangle is another victim blaming term when applied to trauma victims.  According to the creator, Dr. Stephen Karpman, the Drama...

"Reactive Abuse" or "Mutual Abuse" isnt a real thing. Someone always has more power and control. The reason victims do t...

I will be doing a series of posts about some victim blaming terms that many people may not be aware of that are harming victims of abuse, li...

 "EVEN IF IT'S ALL COMPLETELY TRUE" Anyone else sick of sex addict men coming up with labels for traumatized women?  Let's...

(Yes. Cat memes make me happy)  S-Anon is victim blaming and codependency based, even if they don't use the word "codependency"...

  A recent poll suggests that 93% of betrayed wives have had an experience with a therapist blaming them by using the codependency mode...

History of Codependency The term codependency (or co-addict) was a word made up by a bunch of addicts from Alcoholics Anonymous, founded ...

For those interested in what my current personal boundaries look like 💗. For How to Set Boundaries go HERE : Boundaries are very imp...

CORRELATION BETWEEN VIDEO GAMES AND PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION Watch this video on the science behind pornography addiction. Video games rew...

What The Church Says About Judging Others "Thou shalt not judge" is a common accusatory (and quite shaming) misconception I h...

  Self EMDR Here's how to do POSITIVE self EMDR to help with trauma and help you love yourself. No therapist is needed because th...

Your Brain on Caffeine Im going to write about something that may be upsetting to some people. I'm going to talk about the dangers o...

I know this can be a touchy subject so as an addict, and my husband also being an addict, I'm going to explain the reasons why I per...

Should Sex Addict Abusers Take Polygraphs? I love polygraphs. I believe all sex addicts should take an annual polygraph.

If you just found out about your husbands addiction and are going through the full disclosure, these questions may be helpful to ask.

Is There Something Wrong With You That Attracts Abusers?   No, you aren't an abuser magnet. There's nothing inherently wrong wi...

 Must We Forgive Those Who Harm Us And Is Forgiveness The Same As Trust? LDS.org Quotes The quotes below have brought me comfort. At fi...

Pornography Statistics *Edit : These are old statistics. To see the newer statistics that shows 90-99% of men, go to my newer post ...

What is Gaslighting?  Quotes & Resources 1. Oxford Dictionary states: "Gaslight - Manipulate (someone) by psychological ...

  Is it Your Responsibility to Have Sex With Your Husband?  Quotes From LDS Mormon Church Leaders Many wives struggle with feeling like ...

  Many people believe that using the term "sex addict" is detrimental, and should no longer be used when treating sex addict...

To the innocent wives suffering Betrayal Trauma ❤ Is ALL anger bad? Should we always avoid anger at all costs? Why would Christ show ang...

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  Make Your Computer Safer! Here is a list of ways to Opt-Out of many different types of "Interest Based Ads". I suggest optin...

ADDICTION -  "Addiction is the continued repetition of a behavior/rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences." (Note: ***...

Unconditional Love Requires Bounda ries Enabling is NOT Uncon d itional Love   "And know ye that ye shall be judges of this p...

What Is Recovery? Wanna know what the grande ol' mystery to Recovery is? The answer we all search for when figuring out if our partner...

Does your sexually addicted loved one have any of these ADHD symptoms?: Lots of anxiety Racing thoughts (mind won't shut off) ...

 How To Communicate "We have not passed that subtle line between childhood and adulthood until we move from the passive voice to the...

Don't hate me.  I'm gonna say it... I cant stand the 90 day program. 

"Do I need a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist?" I don't (don't hate me) believe a CSAT is necessary. Actually, in m...

What Is Abuse I think many of us hear abuse and we instantly think it only means being physically beaten and that unless we are being...

What are affirmations? I'll explain in a way that helped me understand them (I used to think they were hippy BS haha). We...