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May 2, 2015

Latter Day Saint: 90 Day Program Craziness


Don't hate me. 

I'm gonna say it...

I cant stand the 90 day program. 

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I am a lived experience advocate for victims of betrayal abuse/intimate partner violence, and a recovering alcohol, drug, and sex addict. I am certified in Response Based Practice, and my passion is deconstructing victim blaming language, empowering victims to recognize their dignity and resistance to abuse, and exposing harmful teachings (especially within the trauma and sex addiction industry.)
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  • 1. "The Chalice and the Blade - History of patriarchy" by Riane Eisler
  • 2. "Worlds Oldest Prejudice : A Brief History of Misogyny" by Jack Holland
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  • 6. "Feminie Mystique" by Betty Friedan
  • 7. "Entitled" by Kate Manne (explains why entitlement is at the root of misogyny & patriarchy. And in my opinion also abuse)
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Resources I Recommend

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  • #3 Dr Jessica Taylor @ Victim Focus
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  • #5 Dr. Barbara Steffens
    SASH Preconference Workshops Salt Lake City October 2017

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