**This is my personal experience and does not imply what anyone else should do, that is between them and God. This just happens to be what God told ME**
It depends on what a person can, or is willing or not willing to handle, and most importantly: what God says.
I fully believe someone can heal and live a happy life despite their spouses decision to not seek recovery. However I know myself well enough that I could not. It would destroy me. And not only me, but it would destroy my kids. Perhaps if I did not have kids I could tolerate alot more but my kids were my biggest driving force in my decisions.
When I was contemplating whether to stay or go, I felt inspired to ask myself these questions:
