<title>Help For Victims Of Betrayal Abuse : September 2016

Sep 27, 2016

Your Brain on Caffeine

Im going to write about something that may be upsetting to some people.

I'm going to talk about the dangers of caffeine.

So, if caffeine and you are best friends and it's something you aren't ready to hear yet, I suggest walking away now because my husband quit cold turkey the day he learned all this 😁

Let me ask you something.....Why do you think caffeine is added into soda and other beverages in the first place?

Sep 3, 2016

Wearing Lingerie

I know this can be a touchy subject so as an addict, and my husband also being an addict, I'm going to explain the reasons why I personally don't wear lingerie anymore.

Books I recommend (especially for sex addict abusers). Read them in order.

1. "The Chalice and the Blade - History of patriarchy" by Riane Eisler
2. "Worlds Oldest Prejudice : A Brief History of Misogyny" by Jack Holland
3. "Macho Paradox" by Jackson Katz
4. "The Will to Change" by bell hooks. (Also in her other book "All about Love", chapters 1-4 are great at explaining what love REALLY is, and what many people view as love today really isn't love, it's just caring and cathexis. The rest of the chapters are "ok" but have some old school victim blaming to watch out for).
5. "How Do I Get Through to You" & "I Don't Want to Talk About it" By Terrance Real
6. "Feminie Mystique" by Betty Friedan
7. "Entitled" by Kate Manne (explains why entitlement is at the root of misogyny & patriarchy. And in my opinion also abuse)
8. "The Woman They Could Not Silence" by Kate Moore