Saturday, November 23, 2019

How To Tell If Your Therapist Is Covertly Using The Codependency Model

  A recent poll suggests 93% of betrayed wives have had an experience with a therapist practicing the codependency model in the last five years. Another ongoing poll indicates 74% of wives have even had experiences with a CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) who still use the codependency model. This is shocking because CSATs claim they've been trained in the trauma model and the facilitator of the CSAT training, Dr. Stephanie Carnes, has recently stated on a podcast that only 1-2% of CSATs still use the codependency model! 😳

Sadly many therapists SAY they understand trauma and even use the trauma model, but will still covertly use the outdated codependency model (they just won't mention the actual word "codependency"). However, this leaves many unsuspecting traumatized wives following the codependent victim blaming model and in danger of being re-traumatized by a well-intentioned therapist.

This doesn't automatically mean every therapist who gives out this advice is "bad," it just means they don't yet fully understand trauma and need further education so they don't continue to inadvertently harm their patients. I’m not saying to instantly leave your therapist, I’m just saying to educate yourself on victim blaming language and ideas.

Knowing these warning signs can help protect you so you can better know when to stand up for yourself. 💗

What is the victim blaming language that you should be aware of? Here are the most commonly used phrases and ideas, followed at the end by a break down of each one :

If a therapist ever: