Tuesday, December 29, 2020

How Trauma Bonding Blames Victims

Despite everyone making up their own definitions or reasons, the term "Trauma Bond" is just as victim blaming as codependency, and just as dangerous for abuse victims. I'm not referring to the bond that happens between two victims in trauma, that definitely happens and is a good thing, I've met the best of friends through this journey. I'm referring to the official term "Trauma Bond" created by Patrick Carnes for spouses of sex addicts, and influenced by the bogus Stockholm Syndrome, and many other men, who wrongly thought they knew women better than women. They didn't listen to the victims explanation, they just thought they themselves knew better than the victims.

The whole underlying belief behind trauma bonding is that there is something wrong with the victim (mental disorder, childhood trauma, addiction, insecurities) and THAT'S why she's with an abuser and doesn't leave 🙄.