<title>Help For Victims Of Betrayal Abuse : October 2015

Oct 29, 2015

Latter Day Saint: Unconditional Love and Boundaries

Unconditional Love Requires Boundaries

Enabling is NOT Unconditional Love

"And know ye that ye shall be judges of this people, according to the judgment which I shall give unto you, which shall be just. Therefore, what manner of men ought ye to be? Verily I say unto you, even as I am." 3 Ne. 27:27

un·con·di·tion·al:
1. without condition or limitation; absolute.

Books I recommend (especially for sex addict abusers). Read them in order.

1. "The Chalice and the Blade - History of patriarchy" by Riane Eisler
2. "Worlds Oldest Prejudice : A Brief History of Misogyny" by Jack Holland
3. "Macho Paradox" by Jackson Katz
4. "The Will to Change" by bell hooks. (Also in her other book "All about Love", chapters 1-4 are great at explaining what love REALLY is, and what many people view as love today really isn't love, it's just caring and cathexis. The rest of the chapters are "ok" but have some old school victim blaming to watch out for).
5. "How Do I Get Through to You" & "I Don't Want to Talk About it" By Terrance Real
6. "Feminie Mystique" by Betty Friedan
7. "Entitled" by Kate Manne (explains why entitlement is at the root of misogyny & patriarchy. And in my opinion also abuse)
8. "The Woman They Could Not Silence" by Kate Moore